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1. People will like you – but they will also dislike you. It’s impossible to please everybody. Whether you end up being a famous rock star or a cubicle-bound office worker, there will be people who absolutely can’t stand you. They will belittle you, ignore you, irritate you, annoy you and spread evil rumors about you. Don’t try to change who you are just so you can please these people. There are plenty of others who will adore you for who you are and what you do. Cherish these people and do your utmost to keep them in your life because they will be the ones who stand by your side through thick and thin.
Not everybody is going to like you, and you should learn that this is a good thing. You’re an individual and you’re absolutely brilliant just the way you are. Don’t rely on other people’s opinions of you for your self-esteem. That’s why the word “self” is in there.
2. Nobody stays with you forever. This may sound bitter, but it’s impossible to assume that two people will be friends forever. I had a number of friends in high school that I never talk to anymore; we just drifted apart after school and never really got in touch again. Some of them moved to other cities, all of them attended other schools, and most of them were really only my friends because we had classes in common. The people I hung out with ten years ago are, barring extremely few, complete strangers to me today.
It may be difficult to accept, but it is vital that you do; the people you talk to every day today may not be there in a year or two. Don’t worry about this, however. With nearly seven billion people in the world today, there’s no shortage of possible future friends.
3. Somebody else will always be better than you, have more than you or do more than you. Even given the possibility that you may be the world record holder in something, I’m sure that you have dreams and aspirations that lie elsewhere as well. Nobody can ever expect to be the best in everything he wishes to do. We should try to celebrate our differences and work towards completing each other instead of competing or trying to stand alone.
Your life will be full of people who envy other people’s wallets, wives, jobs, intelligence, body or success. Don’t be one of them.
4. There ain’t no such thing as a free lunch. This saying is probably one of the most important lessons we all need to learn. Even though you are being offered something that seems free, there is always a cost somewhere.
This is, in many ways, a very basic form of the First Law of Thermodynamics – you can’t create anything out of nothing, it has to come from somewhere. If you’re not paying for it now, ask yourself how and when you’re paying for it. If not with money, maybe you’re indirectly paying by giving up something else that you also want?
5. Don’t procrastrinate while waiting for perfection. You shouldn’t be putting things off because you’re worried that you won’t be good enough or that you might fail. Take the chance and leap into the opportunity; the very worst that could happen is that you learn from the experience and do a better job of things the second time around.
If you’ve got an idea for a novel, write it now instead of waiting “until I’m a better author”. I’ve been putting off the writing of a book for eleven years only because I’ve been worried that I didn’t know the subject well enough. It wasn’t until very recently that it struck me that nobody knows the subject better than me because I made it myself.
6. Smoking is probably the dumbest thing you can do. I should know, having been a packet-a-day smoker for the past eight years or so. I wasn’t one of the kids who came into it by way of group pressure in my teens, but consciously decided that it was something I wanted to do far later. I figured that I could quit any time I wanted to. Imagine how surprised I was when repeated attempts to quit failed miserably.
It’s not very pleasant to realize that a small stick of herbs and chemicals – smaller than your finger! – has more power over you than the sum total of your discipline and will. Don’t start smoking. Really.
7. The people in your life are far more important than the things in your life. This one should be a no-brainer to most of us, but it’s amazing how often we see people failing to realize this simple truism. Except possibly the “I need this medicine to live”-class of items, I dare say that most of the things you own today will feel useless, irrelevant and probably quite dumb in ten years.
I hope you don’t feel the same way about your current friends and family.
8. Don’t buy today and expect to pay next month. Even though the offers are enticing and the things they’re selling seem so good that you simply must have them, think twice before going into debt or using a credit card to buy them. I’ve ended up in situations where I pay my credit card bill with my credit card because my debt was too high for me to pay that month. I’ve bought cans of Coca Cola on credit. I’ve taken out money from my credit card and deposited the cash into my checkings account. Sure, I knew that it wasn’t the best thing to do, but I just had to buy that one thing.
Working your way out of credit card debt and not being able to buy the things that really matter is no way to live. If you can; avoid credit and down payment plans as they were the plague. If I, through some miracle of economics, were refunded just the interest on loans and credit that I’ve paid over these past ten years, I would have enough money to buy an apartment for my girlfriend and myself.
9. Pursue your passion! If you want to make music, write books, travel the globe, learn languages, read good literature, meet interesting people or invent something important, then stop inventing things that keep you from doing so.
I have, for as long as I remember, wanted to be a published writer, but there’s always been something else in the way. I “had to” play World of Warcraft obsessively for four years, so I didn’t have time. I was so tired after work so I didn’t feel like writing. I didn’t know my subject well enough. With work, a girlfriend, a dog, hobbies, and so many interesting shows on TV, I just didn’t have the time to write!
If you have a passion, and you’re serious about it, then set aside time for it. If I had known this when I began planning my book eleven years ago, I would probably have written it’s seventh sequel by now.
10. Take care of yourself. The quality of your body and the quality of your mind will never be any better than the things you do with them and the things you put into them. Make sure that you don’t spoil your body or your mind; they’re the only ones you’ll ever be given.
I decided in advance that I would only have ten items on this list, but over the course of writing I’ve come up with many more. These ten were, however, the most important ones that I would want to send to a younger self. However, the following five quick suggestions aren’t to be ignored either:
- Spend less than you earn. You’ll be surprised how hard it is.
- Learn a foreign language or two. Languages really are the gateway to new understanding of the world.
- Watching TV is usually a huge waste of time. When was the last time you actually learned something from watching the latest episode of CSI: Miami?
- Read your blog entries, articles, essays and letters out loud to yourself before you post them. You catch so many more mistakes that way.
- Have a pet or two. They really do make life so much more interesting.
Take care of yourselves.
1. People will like you – but they will also dislike you. It’s impossible to please everybody. Whether you end up being a famous rock star or a cubicle-bound office worker, there will be people who absolutely can’t stand you. They will belittle you, ignore you, irritate you, annoy you and spread evil rumors about you. Don’t try to change who you are just so you can please these people. There are plenty of others who will adore you for who you are and what you do. Cherish these people and do your utmost to keep them in your life because they will be the ones who stand by your side through thick and thin.
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