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En kompis pojkvän berättade precis för henne att han gillar henne men de var ju inte ihop, även då de dejtar så hon ändrade sin status på facebook för några timmar sen. Hon är självklart ledsen och sur. Men ja, japanska dejting scenen FINNS inte känns det som. Finns vissa fina killar, självklart. (d.v.s, ta inte illa upp av mina rant sötnosar).
Anyway, en kille (utlänning) kommenterade på min kompis status change med detta;
I know a lovely woman who is extremely successful (she makes at least a million dollars a year) and sweet, but she's already hit her late 40 after working here for 20 years and is hopelessly single. You're far from the only person who feels alone in the dating scene here in Tokyo. Many local women also complain about it, but it is especially hard on foreign women. Many foreign women leave within a few years because it is practically an epidemic. Foreign men gravitate towards Japanese women and local men don't show too much interest in non-local women as they are intimidated (and in general are fairly non-savvy about dating). Many foreign women who have stayed have spent entire careers here only to find that they have few chances for love (as time has gone by), but can't afford to get away and start over. At 29, your life is still just beginning, so you don't have cause for alarm yet.
Love is one of those things that the harder you search for it, the less likely it will come to you, especially here in Tokyo. At least you've been meeting people and have been going out. I'm sure there are plenty of men who have romantic interest in you, who wonder why you do not show romantic interest back. What you're lamenting is not lack of romantic love (as you can find plenty of this easily), but you're lamenting not being able to find Mr. Right. Mr. Right who feels exactly what you need him to feel and who has all the right things going for him. Unfortunately, you just have to be patient with this one, as the harder to push, the more you'll get hurt by guys who just aren't worth it. In time, the right person will show up. Until then, it's best not to despair, as despair only attracts the men you don't want.
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Kanske skulle flytta hem iaf då. -fnys- .... jag vill träffa någon, ha barn, mys, familj. Det räcker nu liksom. Iofs skrev han att "det kommer" men ska man behöva vänta tills man är 29-30? Blerk.
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